A definition that does not include asking for or deserving help, much less needing it. They are led to believe that their role is to give and provide. On its face, this belief may not appear to be toxic at all, but that is exactly what makes it so challenging to confront.
Many men internalize this and assume that emotional vulnerability and communication are not compatible with the masculine archetype. In the pursuit of performing this role, they cut themselves off from vital elements of their own human experience, and close the door on the sort of insight and investigation we might find through therapy.
Men are socialized to repress most of their feelings, aside from rage, in order to fit with our societal definition of what manhood means. A boy who is emotionally vulnerable might live in fear of being labeled a “sissy” or any number of sexist or homophobic taunts meant to wound his masculinity, and that fear persists unconfronted in many men throughout their adulthood.
Many men internalize this and assume that emotional vulnerability and communication are not compatible with the masculine archetype. In the pursuit of performing this role, they cut themselves off from vital elements of their own human experience, and close the door on the sort of insight and investigation we might find through therapy.
If you are a man struggling under the weight of mental illness, the most powerful and masculine thing you could do is take accountability for your pain by seeking the treatment of a professional. If you had a broken leg, you wouldn’t try to x-ray it and put a cast on it yourself, so why would you expect that your healing your mind would work any different?
It is hard work going to therapy, especially if you feel that you should be able to work through your difficulties on your own in silence, but it is much harder to go on through life carrying the burden of your past by yourself.
You don’t have to take this journey alone. Integrative Counsel has lovely, kind therapists who can help you manage your mental health. To start your counseling journey, follow these simple steps:
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