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Family gatherings can often be far more uncomfortable than we’d hope. Our families are the ones who mold and raise us, so we naturally come to the table with certain baggage. It’s all too easy to jump in with heavy expectations and find yourself disappointed at every turn. Conversely, if our expectations are too low, our family interactions can fill our hearts with tangled knots of anxiety and dread. How can we manage these expectations while also carrying a torch of hope and optimism for the people we love?
“An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the path to change.” – Louise Hay
Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. Affirmations can help us get into the right mindset for anything, including our potentially difficult families. When you’ve repeated them enough that you have begun to believe them, then you can work past your cynicism, and let go of the anxiety that can sometimes sabotage your important relationships. These affirmations can help you get in the right mindset for positive interactions with your family:
Positive affirmations about your family (chosen or otherwise) that reinforce the love, unity, and bond that you share with your family. They can help you to appreciate your family as they are, rather than how you wish them to be. By repeating these positive affirmations about your family, you can open up your heart to warmer experiences with them.
These affirmations can help remind you of the good in your family, even when times get tough during family gatherings. Staying conscious of the things our family has provided for us can help us stay motivated, grounded, and hopeful for our interactions with them. Next time you’re dwelling on the potential disasters that an encounter with your family could bring, try repeating a few of these:
“I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing.” – Louise Hay
It’s easier to say these things than for them to become true. Often, it might take years of hope before that hope transmutes into something you can hang your hope upon. These affirmations are intended to help you keep that hope alive for as long as it takes to infect the people you love with a similar hopeful optimism. The art of intention takes a lifetime to master, but you have the rest of your life to work on it, and you have every reason to be hopeful.
Sunny Ebsary is a writer and singer-songwriter from Tampa, FL. When he’s not sing-songwriting or just regular writing, he’s probably drinking water with a lot of ice, having a staring contest with his cat, or giving people great ideas. You can listen to Sunny’s music here.
November 10, 2023
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