It’s October, and that means we’re emptying out the liquor cabinet and opening ourselves up to all the things we’ve been avoiding from November to September.  That’s right, it’s Sober October.  And you (my beloved reader) are curious about what your mind and body will feel like when they are unchanged and unchained. Even extremely […]

 When we live our lives behind a mask, we permit nobody else to know our authentic self. We forbid all who might criticize, compliment, like, love, or hate us from ever passing judgment by hiding behind a persona. This is, in moderation, healthy.  But it requires that we eventually take off the mask and act […]

We treat self-care like a banana peel that we can throw off the side of the highway because it will all sort itself out.  We tell ourselves that we will get back to ourselves eventually. When things calm down. When the kids are older. When work slows down. When our partner gets better. When there […]

“We all experience long workdays; it’s almost an inevitability!  How we choose to unwind can be the difference between perpetuating the burnout versus being a bit more relaxed.  I like to encourage people to find activities that are energizing rather than numbing.  Some people lean into self medication with substances, alcohol, binge watching shows, or […]

Maybe you’re still in school. Maybe you just graduated. Maybe you’re just trying to learn absolutely anything before the neurons in your brain start firing wrong. We are all beginners somewhere. But sometimes the experience of being a beginner can be so discouraging, frightening, and unpredictable that we avoid learning for all its joy and […]

The new moon is the time to plan, and hope, and design our wishes. This is how our ancestors did it: The night is dark tonight. When the moon is full, we dance along the edges of the firelight, confident that the moon will light our way.  But when the moon is new (like tonight) […]

Authenticity doesn’t come naturally. The society in which we live makes it easier for those who blend in than it does for those who stand out. Queerness and neurodiversity can leave you standing on the outside without other options, and so of course you wear the mask that grants you access, and learn to love […]

If it’s our business to pursue something (and it is), then we will inevitably face setbacks. There’s no river yet discovered without a bend or a curve somewhere along the way, and when we travel on the river of desire, the twists and turns are every bit as important as the final destination.  But there […]

No family is perfect. There will be times in our life where we come into conflict with our families, whether that’s a personal disagreement between family members or a difference in philosophy from one generation to the next.  Family conflict is one of the most stressful conflicts we can experience because there is no complete […]

For many men, emotions can feel like unfamiliar terrain—something to manage, minimize, or power through. But ignoring your feelings doesn’t make them disappear; it only pushes them further out of reach. Therapy offers a space to slow down, reconnect, and begin understanding what your emotions are really trying to tell you. By getting back in […]