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Spring is here and the flowers are in bloom all around us. It’s not just the flowers that going in bloom, however. Humans do it, too. We are ever-evolving creatures, and it’s time we stop being afraid to bloom into our highest selves. What does your growth mean to you? Are you so afraid of change that you stay stuck and stagnant? It’s time to let go of the old patterns, beliefs, and behaviors that hold you back. Here are 5 ways you can blossom into your highest self:
If you don’t love and approve of yourself as you are, you will never grow. We are never quite where we want to be, and that is okay. That is the process of life–if we were exactly where we wanted to be right now, what would we do with ourselves? It would be quite boring, wouldn’t it? Eventually, we would outgrow where we want to be, and move on to something else that sparks our attention, never feeling happy or fulfilled. There would be no flavor, and no will to step outside your comfort zone and live life with zest. Loving yourself as you are, in spite of your flaws, will help you bloom into the person you want to be. We all have light and dark within us that need to be balanced. That is why we are on earth having this human experience. Love and acceptance of yourself will help you grow into your authentic self.
As much as we would love for things to be fine and dandy all the time, life doesn’t work that way. There will always be things that happen that we don’t like. We won’t always feel our best. Eventually in life, if we haven’t experienced it already, someone will break our heart, and we will experience grief in some form. These challenges, though uncomfortable and painful, help us become stronger people. As above, so below. There are always going to be darker days before there are brighter ones. Whenever you are experiencing dark times, you can be comforted by the fact that amazing things will follow that. When we embrace life’s challenges, we build up our strength and can handle whatever life throws at us. Sometimes, the universe puts pressure on us in order to help us create beautiful things in our lives. Consider how your current challenges are making you a better person.
Often, we make ourselves miserable because we think of all the big ways that our life isn’t working out for us. However, there are various small ways that we can appreciate life. Sometimes, all it takes is stepping outside and appreciating the fresh air, or seeing someone perform a random act of kindness on another. Maybe you really don’t feel like cooking dinner for yourself one night, but you give yourself a nudge and do it anyway. That is a small but meaningful action that you can celebrate. Keep a list throughout the day of all your wins, big and small, and it will help you appreciate yourself and your life. Life isn’t about the big wins–those are important, but the small wins build us up for the big ones.
When life isn’t going the way we want it to, it’s easy to give up and ask “Why me? Why is this happening to me? Why can’t my life be better? Why is everyone out to get me?” Instead of asking yourself “why”, ask yourself “How can I use this experience to learn and grow?” “How can I make today better?” “What can I do to make myself and the people I care about happy?” Pulling yourself out of the vicious cycle of the victim mindset will help you soar into the best version of yourself because your mind naturally starts to operate on a more positive brainwave rather than sinking into the depths of negativity.
It is impossible to bloom and grow if you stay rigid. Being flexible is important. Life throws a lot of unexpected twists your way, and it is impossible to control what will happen next. If you approach every day with a flexible mindset, you will be less attached to the outcome. When you have too many rigid attachments, you set yourself up for failure. Let go of the rigidity and to the idea that you must control everything around you. Picture yourself as a leaf floating along the river, unbothered by where the currents take you, just happy to have the experience.
Don’t miss last week’s article where we discover how art therapy soothes the brain!
April 14, 2021
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