How To Call In Your Perfect Partner

In the quest for love and companionship, the idea of “calling in” one’s perfect partner has gained traction as a transformative approach to relationship-seeking. Dating around can be fun, but there are only so many interesting (but bad) dates that a single person should have to handle. No matter how much we put ourselves out there, ultimately meeting the right person is a matter of faith, fate, and time. Manifesting the right partner is a compelling alternative to playing the waiting game, and helps you understand exactly who it is you’re looking for. In this article, we will explore the practical steps and mindset shifts involved when we want to manifest love. Through the act of imagining the partner you deserve, you can grow a loving relationship with yourself that will magnetically attract a deserving partner into your life. Is it easy? No. That’s why we’ve written this guide. 

“To find love, you must first ask yourself if you’re giving as much love as you wish to get.”

Louise Hay

What Is The Best Way To Manifest Love? 

There’s a lot of dating advice out there that amounts to this: use the dating apps at your disposal, put yourself out there as much as you can, and go on as many dates as possible. This is not inherently bad advice for a single person, and following it may often result in the development of new relationships, but finding the right somebody is more than just finding some body. People will treat you as you treat yourself, and partners are no exception. If you seek love without self-love, then no amount of external validation will be able to sustain you. To be able to call in the right person, you must become the right person for yourself. 

Why Do I Have To Love Myself To Manifest Love?  

When we want to manifest love, this is often the most frustrating part. We often seek love as a substitute for self-validation, so when we’re told that in order to find the right partner we have to be a good partner to ourselves, we find that piece of advice all too easy to ignore. But make no mistake, self-love is necessary in a functioning romantic relationship. 

• It’s Easier To Find A Partner. Once you’ve built up your skills of self-love, they blossom into a natural confidence in yourself and your abilities. And when others are seeking a partner, confidence is one of the most attractive qualities to have. By building yourself up, you make the brightest most attractive elements of your person easier to find. 
• Reducing Your Anxiety. As human beings with a subjective viewpoint, we have a tendency to oversimplify our psychological issues by assuming that they are unconnected. In reality, our symptoms and comorbidities interact in complicated ways that are hard to notice and therefore hard to treat. By practicing self-love, the act of talking back to your anxious thoughts becomes a much easier process. 
• It’s Easier To Take Care Of Someone You Love. Self-care is absolutely necessary when it comes to cultivating positive relationships, and that becomes far easier when you accept yourself with love and compassion. While our romantic partners certainly have a role in caring for us, that care is something that is earned with time, respect, and love. If you’re entering the relationship in deep need, your prospective partners may or may not be willing to oblige those needs. By loving yourself, and meeting your own needs, you can meet someone who will take care of you because they want to, not because they feel obligated to. 

How Do I Manifest My Perfect Partner? 

Manifesting your perfect partner is a matter of becoming the sort of partner that you’d want to seek out. That means self-improvement, thought work, and ultimately self-love. The closest thing you have to a shortcut to manifest love.

• Do Your Self-Work. When it comes to romance, self-work is unavoidable! There is a reason that so many people only find love once they’ve completely given up on finding romance and began the arduous process of loving and understanding themselves. Be your own valentine first, and someone else will fall into place later. 
• Set Intentions. Setting intentions for the type of relationship and partner you’d like to find is a great place to start. We all have certain qualities that we desire and need in our romantic partners. Often, we’re not even sure what those things are until we make the effort to consciously think about them. By saying those things out loud, you are doing something bold, powerful, and also educational. Even better than saying them out loud is writing them. When we write things down, we are bringing them outside of our head and into the physical realm. If you meet someone attractive and new, refer to your intentions and see how they measure up to them. 
• Read Some Literature On The Subject. If you follow that link, you’ll find a great resource on the subject of manifesting the right partner: Calling in “The One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas. It’s a great resource for strength, hope, and information when it comes to calling in the right partner, and it touches more in-depth on this topic than we have the scope to get into here. 

“I do love nothing in the world so well as you.” – William Shakespeare, Much Ado About Nothing

Can Therapy Help Me Find The Right Partner? 

Yes! Therapy is one of the most effective ways to get to work on yourself. Sometimes, we can’t always see where we need to improve, or, we see all the things we need to work on, but feel overwhelmed and freeze. A good therapist will help you check your blindspots and hold the lamp for you when the things you are examining are scary or uncomfortable. Our therapists can help you on your journey towards self-discovery and healing. Click here to learn more about our practitioners. Click here if you would like to book a consultation and get matched up with a right-fit therapist. 

Sunny Ebsary is an educator, multi-modal artist, and writer specializing in the intersection of myth and mental health. Sunny’s writing walks the line between poetic and logical, giving readers a chance to interface with the mind and imagination. Sunny’s been putting pen to paper since he was a child, writing everything from albums, novels, and plays, to essays, interactive games, and of course, many articles! While studying both psychology and writing, he realized his real passion in life was helping others unlock their creative spark. Whether he’s leading a D&D game, directing a production, or diving deep into the brain, you can be sure Sunny will be ushering you toward finding meaning in your life.