Our partners are supposed to be our closest allies and most tightly held companions. When there’s a distance in that relationship, it’s our natural instinct to reach out and close that distance.  However, the reality of closing that distance can be quite different than we imagine.  We can spend our money until the bank account […]

The calendar has made its sweet time getting here, but it is finally summer. We live in St. Petersburg, Florida. The sun is shining. It’s blue skies and ocean water that feels like stepping into a bath. We live where people vacation.  But our suffering doesn’t end just because we’re in a beautiful place at […]

Grief. It is the great infectious sickness that accompanies death in all its forms. We can run as much as we’d like, but it always catches up with us. As we process our losses, it can feel like something that we need to escape with the urgency we’d attend to a hot brand on our […]

Ketamine assisted psychotherapy is getting more and more notice for its effectiveness in treating issues like trauma, post traumatic stress, and even addiction. But psychedelic drugs like ketamine have a reputation that precedes them, and sometimes that reputation (and the fear of the accompanying judgment) keeps people away from psychedelic medicine who could otherwise benefit […]

The new moon is the time to plan, and hope, and design our wishes. This is how our ancestors did it: The night is dark tonight. When the moon is full, we dance along the edges of the firelight, confident that the moon will light our way.  But when the moon is new (like tonight) […]

Authenticity doesn’t come naturally. The society in which we live makes it easier for those who blend in than it does for those who stand out. Queerness and neurodiversity can leave you standing on the outside without other options, and so of course you wear the mask that grants you access, and learn to love […]

We want to make a sandcastle, but we don’t want to see it washed away by the tide. As fun as it can be to build something that can withstand the indignity of time, the process can drive you mad.  We don’t want to rebuild. We want to make something that will last. But time […]

Why did we start using social media in the first place? Now that Pandora’s box has been opened, it’s much easier to wonder than to understand why we desired this thing that has formed our thoughts, habits, and environment for the worse.  The unique selling proposition of these social media sites was that we could […]

All relationships have their challenges. Our relationships are as living and breathing as we are, and they inevitably rise and fall with the passage of time. This can be a comfort when our relationship sits in an uncomfortable valley, but it can also be a source of great uncertainty. We must ask ourselves:   How […]

There are times that our work (for one reason or another) becomes so difficult and distasteful to us that we consider quitting. This is true no matter what you went to school for. This is true no matter how much money you make. We spend roughly one third of our lives on this earth working. […]