We treat self-care like a banana peel that we can throw off the side of the highway because it will all sort itself out.  We tell ourselves that we will get back to ourselves eventually. When things calm down. When the kids are older. When work slows down. When our partner gets better. When there […]

It’s not enough to work hard.  Hard work will put money in your bank account and heavy wear on the cartilage in your knees, but it will not put food in your belly, warmth in your bed, nor sleep behind your eyes. You are a delicate animal with many needs that are difficult to manage. […]

When the mind experiences something, the body responds. Sometimes without the mind’s input or consent. When a doctor taps our knee with a reflex hammer, our leg kicks involuntarily. We don’t have to decide to move. Our nervous system receives information, processes it, and creates a physical response. Stress works in much the same way. […]

Neuroplasticity: It’s not just a fancy word. It’s how science describes your brain, and its granted ability to change with time, consciousness, and experience.  This is not just a trend, or a buzzword people are using to sound smart. Neuroplasticity is a fact we’ve proven through research, testing, and experience.  It’s not always fun to […]

“We all experience long workdays; it’s almost an inevitability!  How we choose to unwind can be the difference between perpetuating the burnout versus being a bit more relaxed.  I like to encourage people to find activities that are energizing rather than numbing.  Some people lean into self medication with substances, alcohol, binge watching shows, or […]

Writing is one of our most hallowed and human traditions. For as long as we have scribbled glyphs on walls and tablets of stone, we have used it to say something about what it feels like to be human.  Through writing we can record and observe our own thoughts and feelings from a comfortable distance. […]

Maybe you’re still in school. Maybe you just graduated. Maybe you’re just trying to learn absolutely anything before the neurons in your brain start firing wrong. We are all beginners somewhere. But sometimes the experience of being a beginner can be so discouraging, frightening, and unpredictable that we avoid learning for all its joy and […]

In the time before the written word and civilization itself, we innately understood the power of ritual. Ritual was how we processed incomprehensible things. Through ritual, we remembered what was passed down to us, and through ritual, we decided what was passed on to the next.  We did not need to incorporate ritual into our […]

Our partners are supposed to be our closest allies and most tightly held companions. When there’s a distance in that relationship, it’s our natural instinct to reach out and close that distance.  However, the reality of closing that distance can be quite different than we imagine.  We can spend our money until the bank account […]

The calendar has made its sweet time getting here, but it is finally summer. We live in St. Petersburg, Florida. The sun is shining. It’s blue skies and ocean water that feels like stepping into a bath. We live where people vacation.  But our suffering doesn’t end just because we’re in a beautiful place at […]